Navigating Emotional Darkness: Breaking Through the Feeling of Emptiness and Depression

When faced with the abyss of depression, it can feel like an insurmountable mountain to climb. For many, the journey back to a state of well-being is fraught with challenges and setbacks. One often begins with the question: 'How can I make myself sad if the emptiness I suffer with is worse than any emotional torment I've ever endured?'

Understanding Depression: A Complex Journey

Depression is a multifaceted condition that affects countless individuals. Over the course of my life, I, like many others, have sought medical help and tried different medications. However, the journey is far from a straightforward one. After initial support, I found myself disillusioned and seeking alternatives.

'I have been to doctors and taken medication, from January through March, and then just gave up,' shares a concerned individual. 'In the end, you need to sort through why and what happened in your life to bring you to this. I doubt you have always been depressed. In fact, a year ago, I was the happiest I have ever been in my 41 years.'

External and Internal Battles

The struggle with depression isn't just a personal battle but is often linked to external factors. 'But she will not communicate with me, and I do not see a change in that coming,' says another individual. 'For me, I know what and part of why. I do not understand it all, but I am going to change my circumstances. I hope with some honest self-reflection, you will gain an understanding.'

Craving Sadness or Seeking Happiness?

The desire to feel something, even deep sadness, can sometimes be a misguided attempt to fill the void. 'You seem to have a wish, but interestingly, you crave sadness,' notes a supportive voice. 'I ask if you crave anything to fill up your life why don’t you crave happiness instead?'

Understanding the root cause of such feelings is crucial. 'I am pretty sure that if you are feeling empty or devoid of emotions, 'swirling inside you,' that you must have known a lot of sadness in your earlier life, and that your sort of post-trauma turned into emptiness as your defense mechanism,' explains a mental health professional. 'You can view yourself like a seed left in the desert that requires a few drops of rain in order to start growing.'

Taking Action: Steps Towards Healing

To begin the healing process, it is essential to address the root causes and take steps to change your circumstances. 'The question you want to ask yourself is “where and how do I get these drops of rain / water so I can flower again,’' the expert suggests. 'If you don’t feel seek to do stuff without caring, that helps other, interacting with others, influencing others, and this can be done in many ways.'

One practical approach is to engage in acts of service. 'I am pretty certain that these will be the required drops you need to change your emptiness in your heart. If you volunteer in the children’s department at your nearest hospital, you are pretty certain that some sadness will develop within you. Not the sadness for yourself but the sadness for the lot of another human being,' offers another perspective.

Professional Help: Medication and Therapy

'I know exactly what you mean. Being sad would be a step up,' another individual echoes. 'I am pretty sure you are suffering from depression, and it is like the flu. You didn’t ask for this, but there are meds you can take to help you fight the depression and feel less miserable.'

Seeking professional help is a significant step in this journey. 'Consult a doctor then tell them you are depressed and ask for an antidepressant. It will take about two weeks to help. If it doesn’t help by three weeks, go back to the doctor and explain the situation. In the meantime, set up an appointment with a therapist,' advises a seasoned professional.

Remember, even if the path ahead seems daunting, 'this worked for me, and it can work for you.' The key is persistence and the willingness to seek help. Good luck on your journey towards healing and a brighter future.