How to Manage a Young Child's Food Tossing Behaviors: A Parent's Guide

At 20 months, changing the rules you've inadvertently set will be challenging, but with persistence and consistency, you can help your child develop better mealtime behaviors.

Understanding the Root Cause

Many children between 11 and 20 months old are in the exploratory phase of development, which often includes touching and playing with food. It's important to understand that your child is curious about textures and the sensations they create. This can lead to them manipulating their food plates and throwing it around.

Implementing Effective Management Strategies

Feeding Techniques and Plate Management

Start by reducing the amount of food on the plate. Offer a smaller portion, perhaps a quarter of the typical serving. Provide a spoon, and when the child throws the food, immediately remove the plate and say 'no' firmly but not loudly. This should be done repeatedly until your child stops this behavior. Your child is likely to protest initially, but it's crucial not to cave in to these tantrums.

Once the child has successfully finished their small meal, offer some finger foods such as grapes, strawberries, or cheese. This will allow them to explore textures and enjoy the meal despite the mess. Persistence is key here, as your child may need multiple reminders to avoid making a mess.

Interactive Learning and Positive Reinforcement

Consider setting mealtime rules from day one and stick to them consistently. For instance, allow your child to have their food only when they're in a high chair or a similar secure place. If they attempt to tip or throw their food, take it away immediately and explain that it's not acceptable. Offer the plate and spoon back only when they insist and behave properly.

When mealtime is not the primary focus of the activity, set up a learning station with cups, saucers, spoons, and forks. Encourage your child to use these items properly to avoid making a mess.

Real-World Learning and Consequences

Take your child on trips where there are no facilities to eat, such as a visit to a park or a nature trail. Explain how valuable food is and how many people don't have access to it. This can help your child develop respect for food. If they still fail to grasp the concept, consider setting up a task where they must clean up the waste food themselves or even 'buy' food using money they earn through simple chores or pocket money.

Creating a Safe Environment for Play

When they understand the value of food and the consequences of wasting, try presenting food in a large drum with plenty of space. This way, your child won't be able to tip it over as easily. This method can also make clean-up less messy.

Conclusion

Managing a young child's food tossing behavior requires patience, consistency, and positive reinforcement. By setting clear expectations and offering alternative learning experiences, you can help your child develop better mealtime habits and a deeper understanding of the value of food. Remember, every behavior your child develops is a stepping stone to better discipline and respect. Good luck!